I have two children and returning to work felt very different for each of them.
With my oldest, I was returning to the same organisation but in a new role that I really wanted. I’d managed to negotiate 4 days a week and felt confident that I could do the job. However, the downside was that my son was only 9months old and I felt such guilt and worry about leaving him at nursery.
With my second, I went back when he was 1 and into a 3 day a week role. However, I had to take a demotion due to the inflexibility of the company back then (2016). That was pretty demoralising but meant that I was able to ‘phone it on’ and not take any work stress home!
I think it was the not knowing how it would feel to be away from the kids. The constant tug of home and work life responsibilities and trying to do everything really well! Not possible in hindsight…
More understanding from my employers on flexible and home working, it just wasn’t an option then and I didn’t know or feel able to ask. I think more confidence in what I was capable of, a reminder of my strengths and that becoming a mum actually makes you more resilient and a great asset to your workplace!
Ask for help! I really didn’t and I wish I’d reached out for support, there is so much available – from advice to coaching and training.
Thank you so much Laura!